When it comes to mindfulness, visualization is always top of mind. We often abruptly approach situations that require tact, only to find ourselves jarred by an outcome we did not expect. Learning to mitigate our own reaction, we first apply a means of preparation. From our past experiences, we can correlate and understand in an anticipatory sense, how the receiver of our message will perceive our interaction. If we have the means of rapport with this individual/s we can then build experience in our mind.
The practice of the idea of imagining experiences is often referred to as seeing success. A process of creating a story in our mind around a given set of principles allows us to predicate a set amount of variables. Visualization allows us to anticipate shifts in patterns within interaction and predetermine ways to approach a better solution. The empathetic sensitivity is key to this mindfulness as it allows us to approach a situation with a refined understanding of how we can be quite thoughtful, despite the connotation of the message.
To illustrate this idea let us take a look at a caption from How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie. Think not of the metaphorical content, more so of the approach and the why.
“I would rather walk the sidewalk in front of a person’s office for two hours before an interview than to step into that office without a perfectly clear idea of what I was going to say, and what that person, from my knowledge of his/her interests and motives, was likely to answer.” — Dean Dunham, Harvard Business School
Understanding the importance of personalizing an experience, imagining one's success, and predetermining possible outcomes through rapport, we have a much better chance of applying our best selves. In exchanges large and small our interactions are best suited when we bring the best version of what we have to offer as often as we can. Although often life can be quite dynamic in nature, we can learn to balance our decisions based on the means in which we are provided.
From meetings to events, looking into the information available beforehand often increases the value of the experience, but allows us to have more meaningful interactions. Aligning our thoughts with the determined set principles, we can then explore a mindful visualization that frequently stems from research and active listening. I suppose it a good as time as any to remind myself as well that active listening is the key to visualizing, as asking questions, taking an interest, and establishing rapport only validates our testing even more.
Capturing mental moments through visualization is only one of the many adaptive techniques we can use to have more mindful experiences. Through more experiences we can contrast the time spent practicing and identifying the best methodologies for ourselves.